What is the point of getting up in the morning, driving to work, staring at your computer screen for 8 hours, driving home, spending only a few moments with your family, going to bed and waking up in the morning to do it all over again?
Just over a year ago my 6 year old son called me into his room one night and asked me a question that caused me to examine my situation at the time, with a serious demeanor he took a deep breath and asked “Dad can we travel the world? I want our family to travel the world together, I want to see the world!!”. Surprised at his question and sincerity I replied reluctantly, “Yes son we are going to see the world as a family, that’s why Mum and Dad are working hard to make that happen”. All the while thinking of how the f@#$ I was going to pull this off?!
At the time baby number 4 was due to arrive and I had previously come to the conclusion that the 9 to 5 rat race life; the pursuit of things; paying bills and being a mindless drone on autopilot was not for me. Now with my son having shared his desire with me it only added extra fuel to the fire, but still the question of how? haunted me.
I did not want to sell my soul to a ponzi or a get rich quick scheme and whatever the vehicle was I felt that it had to be connected to what was important to me. I learnt a useful concept called finding your Eulerian Destiny from investor, entrepreneur and author Tai Lopez. You’ve probable encountered one of Tai’s many ads online or heard his Ted talk; Why I read a book a day (and why you should too); the law of 33%. The concept is derived from a eulerian graph/Venn diagram where four circles intersect with each other:
Each circle is populated with experiences that coincides with the following categories: 1.What did you grow up around?; 2. Stranger feedback (what do strangers say about you); 3. What have you been doing for work in the past 5 or 10 years?: and lastly 4. What can you talk about effortlessly/what fascinates you? The common denominators should appear in all four circles giving you a clearer picture of what your purpose or destiny may be.
Over a period of days the exercise got me looking far back into my past moving from conversions, interactions and experiences that I could recall right up to the present. Common traits, skills and accomplishments began to connect. At the center, to my surprise was the skill and passion I had for running?!
“Hmm ok…” I didn’t know how running was going to get my family and I around the world but I thought, ” ahh f@#$ it, there’s obviously something to this running thing and I love it!!”
So fast forward a year and a bit to now, my wife and I have lost a significant amount of kilograms between us and run in a few full & half Marathons and a 10km around the North Island of New Zealand with more on the horizon. If I were to include the GPS training logs from my Tomtom Spark Watch and wife’s android phone I don’t think there would be one path or trail that we haven’t crossed in our region, but I suspect there is more out there to be discovered. We have also completed multiple 5km Parkruns at our beloved Bothemly Park in Porirua and at times done so with our 4 reluctant children in tow.
We still haven’t made it around the world just yet but we will get there when the time is right. At the moment my family and I are loving what we are doing, seeing the beauty right here in our own backyard of Aoteroa. I no-longer feel like a purposeless, mindless automaton who’s existence was to pay the bills and acquire things!! I have gained a true appreciation for life, enjoying the here and now with an optimistic outlook for my families future. I have always loved to run and now I run knowing that it is part of the reason I have been put on this earth. I will continue to refine my purpose revisiting the four Eulerian circles from time to time, but at last I know my why!!